Tears. That is what the Nirbhaya documentary has reduced me to. The documentary – “India’s daughter”, which has been banned by the Government for God knows what goddamned reason, is like a wake up call to all Indians telling us that even though the government data shows that we’re progressing with a rapid growth rate, we’ve gone way backwards, past the point from where human society even started.
“Even a monster has its limits” – These are the words of the father of Jyoti, the victim in the Nirbhaya rape case. I’ve never really believed in monsters or demons or the devil. Now I believe it’s all true. A monster is living among us and that monster is the mentality that these people have. Phrases from the documentary are shooting across my mind – “A woman has no place in our society”,”Indian culture is the best culture and our culture does not permit a woman being independent”,”A woman must do housekeeping”,”A woman is like a flower and a man like a thorn”,”A woman is like a diamond, put her outside and a dog will come grab it”. Today, I am ashamed to say that I live in a society where such thoughts are even allowed to take birth and that too in the minds of “educated” people with “degrees”. I have realized that getting a degree in India is easier than gaining admission to an institute.
The defense lawyers even have the courage to go up to the media and say things like “I’d burn my daughter alive if she went out of the house late at night”. These “lawyers” can’t even talk properly and they think they have the right to make comments about how a person (Read Woman) should or should not live. Frankly, I believe that these two lawyers should be hanged along with the convicts. As that is not going to happen, I hope they give birth to free-minded and independent daughters and these daughters should see the documentary and shame their fathers.
The rapist felt no remorse in what he had done. He talked about pulling the intestines out of the girl as if it was such a humanly thing to do. The guy said that girls shouldn’t wear short clothes or go out at night with her friends and what they did was to teach her a lesson. There is no remorse in his eyes. Not even an essence of guilt. He makes even terrorists seem like humanly, god-fearing people.
“A girl shouldn’t go out at night but it’s okay for a guy to go out on the streets naked. Indian society doesn’t permit girls and guys to be friends.” Why should a girl not go out at night? What are you doing better than her that gives you the right to do what you wish and not her? One of the lawyers even said that if a boy and a girl are outside, the only thing that comes to his mind is sex. Wow! I applaud your mentality sir. How proud your wife must be of marrying you, how proud your mother would be of having given birth to you, how proud your sister would be that she ties a Rakhi to your hand, how proud your daughter must be today!
“The girl was inviting rape and shouldn’t have fought back”. Did she sit naked and try to seduce you? Did she ask you to rape her? If no, then she was not “inviting” rape but yes, people who’re saying these words are surely inviting a public flogging. And, why should she not have fought back? What gives you the right to her body?
At 17 years and 6 months old, the “juvenile” who was part of the rape was convicted to 3 years in prison. Although I believe that it’s a good thing that he’ll be available to the public to do whatever they like with him since he has “invited” a lot of things by the crime he has committed, but is the law so stupidly rigid that it cannot be changed for a person who claims to be a juvenile but commits a crime which even older criminals are appalled at.
There are many questions that I’d like to ask these “men” who believe they are better than women and can do anything they want to a woman. What have you done to believe that you are better than a woman? The rapist claims that he never liked school and so never attended. The rape victim was a medical student from a poor background, working hard to pay her own education bills. Mr. Unemployed Rapist, how can you even think that you’re better than the girl? The lawyers cant speak a word of English properly and still believe that they are born better just because they’re men. Why should a girl not go out and enjoy her life? Where is it written in Indian culture that girls shouldn’t go out at night? Where is it mentioned that girls are not equivalent to boys? How much of the Gita, Mahabharata, Ramayana have you read, that you go about talking about the Indian culture as if you’re the most cultured people in all of India?
Finally, the government has again showed itself to be a coward and gone ahead and banned this documentary. Why? Because the lawyer mentioned that there are rape cases against MPs and MLAs? It’s not as if we don’t already know that. What will be the outcome of banning a sensible documentary in which many high profile members of society have raised their voices? You ban beef, you ban a documentary, you ban films but rape, that too pre-marital, deserves only a couple of years of punishment. This is our government and such are our laws. After marriage, what gives the husband a right to his wife’s body is beyond me. If there is a right, the wife should be made to sign out a contract before marriage enlisting all such details so that she can know what she is getting into.
I have a mother, grandmother, sisters, friends, aunts, relatives, neighbors – women i’m extremely proud of. They’re doctors, professors, managers, engineers, lawyers, homemakers. They choose to do what they love to do. They work and manage their families and that is how strong women are. Women should have all the rights that men have and any well-educated person would agree to this. Someone who has a different opinion is obviously not educated even if he claims to be.
Jyoti’s mother has tears in her eyes as she talks about the gem of a daughter she had. The rapists’ wife still blindly believes that her husband can do no wrong and that she won’t have a life worth living if her husband dies. Jyoti’s father is choked up when he talks about having to cremate his own daughter. The rapists’ parents are saddened by the thought of having no one to cremate them when they die. So many lives affected and yet the rapist feels no guilt of what he’s done and proudly proclaims that the next generation of rapists will rape and murder a girl and not leave her with the gift of the bare minimum amount of life that they left in her. I have always been proud of being an Indian. Today, I’m ashamed of living in a society where people like these rapists and their lawyers live.